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Thursday, April 12, 2012

There is a jinni in his house

I was living in flat in sharjah,after some month passed i realised the fingure print with blood was on the wall and on the floor and the same day the noise started coming, so i left that flat and move to another one, in that also the same thing happened, then i send my family back hone, now i am staying with my freind,their also i realise the noise, but if i stayed alone, then it trouble me lot, i used to prayer 5 time and receit the quran in morning and while going to bed i read shura al-muzzammil 7 time & shura al-mulk. Now slowing its reducing. Please could u tell me what step i should take.

Praise be to Allaah.  

These noises and actions may come from the jinn. The jinn are part of the creation of Allaah whose existence we must believe in, because Allaah mentions them in many verses of the Qur’aan, and there is even a soorah named for them, namely Soorat al-Jinn. Their existence is a matter upon which there is consensus.

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said:

All nations believe in the jinn and they have had many encounters with them, which it would take too long to describe. No one denies the existence of the jinn except for a very few ignorant philosophers and doctors and the like.

Majmoo’ al-Fataawa, 19/32

Their powers are greater than those of man, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“An ‘Ifreet (strong one) from the jinn said: “I will bring it [the throne of the Queen of Saba’] to you before you rise from your place”

[al-Naml 27:39]

There was a great distance between Sulaymaan (peace be upon him) and the Queen of Saba’ (Sheba).

Allaah has enabled the jinn to change shape and to fly, etc, but despite their great powers they have no control over the righteous slaves of Allaah. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Verily, My slaves (i.e. the true believers of Islamic Monotheism) — you have no authority over them. And All-Sufficient is your Lord as a Guardian”

[al-Isra’ 17:65]

“And he (Iblees - Satan) had no authority over them, except that We might test him who believes in the Hereafter, from him who is in doubt about it”

[Saba’ 34:21]

Even the Shaytaan acknowledged this and said:

“[Iblees (Satan)] said: ‘O my Lord! Because You misled me, I shall indeed adorn the path of error for them (mankind) on the earth, and I shall mislead them all.

Except Your chosen, (guided) slaves among them’”

[al-Hijr 15:39-40 – interpretation of the meaning]

Rather he has control over those people who agree with his kufr and follow him willingly, as Allaah tells us (interpretation of the meaning):)

“Certainly, you shall have no authority over My slaves, except those who follow you of the Ghaawoon (Mushrikoon and those who go astray, criminals, polytheists, and evildoers)”

[al-Hijr 15:42]

Allaah may give them [the jinn] power over believers because of their sins, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah is with the qaadi (judge) so long as he is not unjust; if he is unjust then Allaah has nothing to do with him and will cause the Shaytaan to stay with him.” Narrated by al-Haakim and al-Bayhaqi; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 1823.

The Muslim must, above all else, arm himself with the weapon of faith and righteous deeds, for these are the best provision he may have and the best means of foiling the plots of the devils among mankind and the jinn.

You have to strengthen your relationship with Allaah, for He is the One on Whom you should depend. Remember Allaah a great deal in all situations, and strive to keep your tongue busy constantly with dhikr (remembrance of Allaah). No one can find any better protection against the Shaytaan than the remembrance of Allaah. It was narrated in a saheeh report from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) that Allaah enjoined five things upon Yahya ibn Zakariya, which he was to do and to command the Children of Israel to do, one of which was: “I command you to remember Allaah, for the likeness of that is that of a man whose enemy comes after him, until he comes to a strong fortress where he protects himself from him. Similarly, a person cannot protect himself against the Shaytaan except by remembering Allaah.” Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.  

Constantly recite the dhikrs narrated from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), such as the dhikr when entering the toilet, when having intercourse, when hearing the braying of a donkey, when entering the house, in the morning and the evening, when going to sleep, and in other circumstances and at other times for which a specific dhikr has been narrated from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).

These dhikrs have been compiled in books such as al-Adhkaar by al-Nawawi, al-Kalim al-Tayyib by Ibn Taymiyah, and Husn al-Muslim by al-Qahtaani [the later is available with English transliteration and translation under the title “Fortress of the Muslim – Invocations from the Qur’an and Sunnah”, published by Darussalam, Riyadh – Translator].

You should also read a lot of Qur’aan in the house, especially Soorat al-Baqarah. Ahmad (7762) and Muslim (780) narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Do not make your houses (like) graveyards, for the Shaytaan flees from a house in which Soorat al-Baqarah is read.”

You should also purify your house of everything in which there is disobedience towards Allaah, such as keeping images and dogs. Abu Talhah (may Allaah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The angels do not enter a house in which there is a dog or an image.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3322; Muslim, 2106.

If there are no angels in the house, it will become a dwelling for the devils.

With regard to reading Soorat al-Muzzammil and al-Mulk when going to sleep, there are reports that indicate that it is mustahabb to recite Soorat al-Mulk before sleeping. Al-Tirmidhi (2892) narrated from Jaabir (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used not to sleep until he has recited Alif-Laam-Meem Tanzeel (al-Sajdah) and Tabaarak alladhi bi yadihi’l-mulk (Soorat al-Mulk). Classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

With regard to Soorat al-Muzzammil, there is no report to indicate that it is mustahabb to recite it when going to sleep. And Allaah knows best.

I want my relationship with my husband to go back to the way it was

I have a problem and only my Lord knows how bad it is. My problem is that my husband treats me badly and betrays me and does not acknowledge his Lord. This complete change happened three years ago and I have been putting up with it for so long for the sake of my children and in the hope that he would change. I used to think that his mother was influencing him, because his mother used to criticize me all the time behind my back even though I treated her well and respected her and took care of her. But she used to feel jealous of my husband’s love for me, and I felt that, even though in front of me she pretended to show love because I used to treat her well. This happened three years ago when she stayed with us in our house for five months after her husband passed away, and she left us after we traveled abroad for work. Since that time I have been suffering terribly.
My husband is no longer the husband that I know. I hope that you can help me, because I do not know what to do any more to bring him back to the way he was before. My sister is certain that he has been bewitched and is not in his right mind. Is this possible? And if it is then what can I do? I hope that you can advise me, because I do not want to get divorced or to turn to charlatans. My sister told me that there is a man of religion who treats people by means of Qur’aan, and she asked me to give her my picture and a picture of my husband. But I was afraid that this might incur the wrath of Allaah. Is that permissible? What should I do in this situation? I hope that you will help me, because I am in a difficult situation. I hope that you will answer me quickly. I am turning to you – after Allaah – in the hope that my Lord will show me a way out. May Allaah relieve you of all difficulty and may Allaah reward you with all good.

Praise be to Allaah.  

You should note that by His wisdom, Allaah tests His slaves with good and evil, to show who among them will obey Him in all circumstances and who will only obey Him in some circumstances. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Who has created death and life that He may test you which of you is best in deed. And He is the All-Mighty, the Oft-Forgiving”

[al-Mulk 67:2]

“and We shall make a trial of you with evil and with good. And to Us you will be returned”

[al-Anbiya’ 21:35]

One of the kinds of tests is that Allaah may test one spouse with bad treatment on the part of the other, for whatever reason. Based on this, if what you have mentioned is correct and your husband has been bewitched or affected by strong hasad (envy) – for witchcraft and the evil eye do have an effect, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “The evil eye is real” (narrated by al-Bukhaari, no. 5408; Muslim, 2187) – then you have to do the following:

1 – Remember Allaah a great deal (dhikr) and pray for forgiveness. Ask Allaah to heal your husband and to make him be as he used to be. Nothing can alter the divine decree except du’aa’.  

2 – Think about yourself and the way you treat your husband. It may be that you have changed in the way you treat him, without realizing. Be the best wife you can to him, and the best help, after Allaah. Stand be his side during this trial and be his support, after Allaah.

3 – Do not go to that so-called man of religion, for he is asking for your picture in order to practice trickery. See question no. 21124.

4 – There is nothing wrong with you going with your husband to a trustworthy shaykh, who treats people by means of the Qur’aan and du’aa’s prescribed by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). You could also recite Qur’aan over some water and you and your husband drink from it, and you could recite ruqyah over him every day, and recite Soorat al-Baqarah in the house. For more information on the ways of undoing the effects of witchcraft please see the following questions: 11290, 4010, 21124, 12198, 8291, 20954. For information on protection against witchcraft, please see questions no. 2662 and 22816. For information on various kinds of witchcraft please see questions no. 12578, 9432, 240.

5 – Assuming that what has happened to your husband is not witchcraft or hasad (envy), then sit with him and discuss things frankly. Tell him what you feel, and agree to go back to the way things were.

6 – You can ask some people – especially trustworthy relatives - to intervene and seek a solution to this problem, and to look into its causes and try to find a way of resolving it.

Finally, we advise you to weigh up your husband’s good points and bad points, and do not forget his good qualities and his kind treatment of you, because that will motivate you to try to bring him back to the right path in his religion and in his relationship with his Lord, first of all, then in his relationship with you.

May Allaah make things easy for you, and make your husband happy with your obedience and make you happy with his good treatment. And Allaah knows best.

How can a person know who has envied him, and how should the one who has been envied be treated?

Is it possible for a person who has been affected by envy (hasad) to know whether the envy came from himself or from another person? What is the remedy in either case?.

Praise be to Allaah.  

Firstly:

If a person looks at something he has with admiration and he does not pray for barakah (blessing) for it, by saying “Baarik Allaahu fihi (may Allaah bless it)” and the like, and this thing is then affected in some way, then it is possible to know that he has inflicted hasad on himself.  

It is not possible to know that a specific person is the one who has envied you, except in circumstances such as those described above, such as if a person enters your shop and starts to admire it but does not pray for it to be blessed, then things in the shop get broken or damaged.

 This applies in cases where the effect is seen straightaway. But if a long time passes before something happens, then we cannot be certain that a specific person has envied him.

There are means that some people use to find out who has put the evil eye on something or someone, but these are not prescribed or approved of in sharee’ah, rather they are devilish means, such as imagining (the person who caused it) during recitation of Qur’aan as a remedy, or seeking the help of the jinn and devils (shayaateen) to find out such things.

The scholars of the Standing Committee said:

With regard to imagining (the person who caused it) during recitation of Qur’aan as a remedy, this is a devilish procedure which is not permitted, because it is seeking the help of the devils (shayaateen), who appear to the sick person in the form of the one who afflicted him. This is something that is haraam, because it involves seeking the help of the devils, and because it stirs up enmity between the people, and spreads fear and mistrust among people, so it comes under the verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And verily, there were men among mankind who took shelter with the males among the jinn, but they (jinn) increased them (mankind) in sin and transgression”

[al-Jinn 72:6]

They said: It is not permissible to seek the help of the jinn in order to find out what has been done and how it should be treated, because seeking the help of the jinn is shirk. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And verily, there were men among mankind who took shelter with the males among the jinn, but they (jinn) increased them (mankind) in sin and transgression”

[al-Jinn 72:6]

And He says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And on the Day when He will gather them (all) together (and say): ‘O you assembly of jinn! Many did you mislead of men,’ and their Awliyaa’ (friends and helpers) amongst men will say: ‘Our Lord! We benefited one from the other, but now we have reached our appointed term which You did appoint for us.’ He will say: ‘The Fire be your dwelling place, you will dwell therein forever, except as Allaah may will. Certainly your Lord is All-Wise, All-Knowing’”
[al-An’aam 6:128]

What is meant by benefiting from one another is that the humans venerated the jinn and humbled themselves to them and sought their help, so the jinn served them and did what they wanted, and brought them what they asked for – including telling them the nature and causes of sickness, things which the jinn can see but humans cannot. But they may tell them lies because they cannot be trusted and it is not permissible to believe them.

 Majallat al-Da’wah, no. 1682.

Secondly:

With regard to treating one who has been affected by envy, there are two ways of doing this:

If the person who envied him is known, he may be asked to do ghusl and the water used should then be poured on the “victim”. If he is not known then the remedy is by means of ruqyah and the dhikrs prescribed in sharee’ah.

For more details on the evil eye and envy (hasad), and the differences between them, and how to protect oneself against them, please see the answers to questions no. 20954. 7190, 11359, 12205.

She predicts things that are almost true and they think that she has knowledge of the unseen

There is a woman who claims to worship Allaah sincerely, and that whilst she is asleep she is visited by a man wearing a white gown who walks around her, then the next morning she predicts things that are almost true. The people know of her and they have started to visit her and they say that she has knowledge of the unseen, but no one knows the unseen except Allaah. What is the ruling on this woman? What do you advise us to do?.

Praise be to Allaah.  

It is not permissible for anyone to claim to have knowledge of the unseen. The one who makes such a claim is a kaafir. And it is not permissible to believe that anyone has knowledge of the unseen. The one who believes that is also a kaafir.

Allaah has told us that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) does not have knowledge of the unseen, and that the jinn do not have knowledge of the unseen.

What we are referring to here is the unseen in absolute terms, which no one knows except Allaah. As for the relative unseen – which some people know and others do not – some people may find a way to know this, so we have to find out how they know it; some may find out by spying and some may find out through the jinn. Both are ways which it is forbidden for us to use.

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked:

Do the jinn have knowledge of the unseen?

He replied:

The jinn do not have knowledge of the unseen because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Say: None in the heavens and the earth knows the Ghaib (Unseen) except Allaah”

[al-Naml 27:65]

“Then when We decreed death for him [Sulaymaan (Solomon)], nothing informed them (jinn) of his death except a little worm of the earth which kept (slowly) gnawing away at his stick. So when he fell down, the jinn saw clearly that if they had known the Unseen, they would not have stayed in the humiliating torment”

[Saba’ 34:14]

So whoever claims to have knowledge of the unseen is a kaafir, and whoever believes the one who claims to have knowledge of the unseen is also a kaafir, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Say: None in the heavens and the earth knows the Ghaib (Unseen) except Allaah”

[al-Naml 27:65]

No one knows what is unseen in the heavens and the earth except Allaah alone. Those who claim to have knowledge of the unseen future are all fortunetellers, and it is proven that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever goes to a fortuneteller and asks him (about anything), his prayer will not be accepted from him for forty days.” And if he believes him then he is a kaafir because if he believes that he has knowledge of the unseen, then he has disbelieved in the words of Allaah (interpretation of the meaning):

“Say: None in the heavens and the earth knows the Ghaib (Unseen) except Allaah”

[al-Naml 27:65].

Majmoo’ Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 1 Shawwaal, no. 115.

And Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked about the ruling on one who claims to have knowledge of the unseen. He replied:

The ruling on one who claims to have knowledge of the unseen is that he is a kaafir, because he has disbelieved in Allaah. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Say: None in the heavens and the earth knows the Ghaib (Unseen) except Allaah, nor can they perceive when they shall be resurrected”

[al-Naml 27:65]

If Allaah has commanded His Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) to proclaim to all that no one in the heavens or on earth has knowledge of the unseen except Allaah, then whoever claims to have knowledge of the unseen has denied what Allaah has told us here.

We say to them: How can you possibly have knowledge of the unseen when the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not have knowledge of the unseen? Are you better or the Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)? If they say, “We are better than the Messenger” then they become kaafirs by saying that. If they say, “He is better,” then why was the unseen concealed from him but you have knowledge of it?? Allaah says of Himself (interpretation of the meaning):

“(He Alone is) the All‑Knower of the Ghayb (Unseen), and He reveals to none His Ghayb (Unseen).

27. Except to a Messenger (from mankind) whom He has chosen (He informs him of the Unseen as much as He likes), and then He makes a band of watching guards (angels) to march before him and behind him.”

[al-Jinn 72:26]

The second verse attests to the kufr of the one who claims to have knowledge of the unseen. And Allaah commanded His Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) to announce to all (interpretation of the meaning):

“Say (O Muhammad): I don’t tell you that with me are the treasures of Allaah, nor (that) I know the Unseen; nor I tell you that I am an angel. I but follow what is revealed to me”

[al-An’aam 6:50]

Majmoo’ Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 1 Shawwaal, no. 22.

The one who predicts the future is called a kaahin (fortuneteller, soothsayer), and it is not permissible to ask questions of such a person or to go to him or her. If their predictions are sometimes correct, that is either a coincidence or because the jinn have intercepted the news and conveyed it to the fortuneteller, but they add a hundred lies to it.

It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: Some people asked the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) about fortunetellers. He said: “They are nothing.” They said: “O Messenger of Allaah, sometimes they tell us something and it is true.” The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “That is a word of the truth that they learn from the jinni which he whispers into the ear of his familiar, but they mix a hundred lies with it.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5429; Muslim, 2228.

Al-Haafiz ibn Hajar said:

Al-Qurtubi said: During the Jaahiliyyah they used to consult the fortunetellers about events and rulings, and follow what they said. Then the fortunetellers stopped when the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was sent. But there are still some who resemble them. It is forbidden to go to them, so it is not permissible to go to them or to believe them.

In the version narrated by Yoonus the phrase “sometimes they tell us something and it is true” appears as “they tell something and it turns out to be true.” This phrase has confused the questioner because of the general meaning of the phrase “They are nothing”, which he has understood to mean that they never get anything right. But the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) commented that although they sometimes coincidentally get things right, it is never completely right for it is always contaminated with many lies.  

Al-Khattaabi said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) explained that the reason why the fortuneteller sometimes gets it right is that the jinni tells him of something that he has heard by eavesdropping on the angels, and he adds lies to that to embellish what he heard. So occasionally he gets it right but usually it is wrong. Fath al-Baari, 10.219, 220.

With regard to what is mentioned in the question of what this woman sees in her dreams, such dreams are not to be taken as evidence concerning rulings of sharee’ah, let alone whatever they may indicate that goes against any matter of ‘aqeedah (belief) that is confirmed in the texts of Islam. Whatever she sees in her dreams is to be regarded as the Shaytaan’s toying with her and taking advantage of her ignorance.

For more information on the rulings on what is seen in dreams, please see questions no. 25768, 6537 and 23367.

And Allaah knows best.

The fate of the Shaytaan on the Day of Resurrection

What will happen to the shaitaan after the day of resuruction?.

Praise be to Allaah.  

The fate of the Shaytaan on the Day of Resurrection will be the worst and most horrible of fates – we seek refuge with Allaah – as is indicated by a great deal of evidence from the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Allaah has stated that the Shaytaan is one of the kaafirs (disbelievers) as He says (interpretation of the meaning):

‘And (remember) when We said to the angels: “Prostrate yourselves before Adam.” And they prostrated except Iblees (Satan), he refused and was proud and was one of the disbelievers (disobedient to Allaah)’

[al-Baqarah 2:34]

And the fate of the disbelievers will be Hell, what a miserable abode.

Allaah tells us that His curse is upon the Shaytaan until the Day of Resurrection, and that He will fill Hell with him and his followers. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

‘And surely, We created you (your father Adam) and then gave you shape (the noble shape of a human being); then We told the angels, “Prostrate yourselves to Adam”, and they prostrated themselves, except Iblees (Satan), he refused to be of those who prostrated themselves.

12. (Allaah) said: “What prevented you (O Iblees) that you did not prostrate yourself, when I commanded you?” Iblees said: “I am better than him (Adam), You created me from fire, and him You created from clay.”

13. (Allaah) said: “(O Iblees) get down from this (Paradise), it is not for you to be arrogant here. Get out, for you are of those humiliated and disgraced.”

14. (Iblees) said: “Allow me respite till the Day they are raised up (i.e. the Day of Resurrection).”

15. (Allaah) said: “You are of those respited.”

16. (Iblees) said: “Because You have sent me astray, surely, I will sit in wait against them (human beings) on Your straight path.

17. “Then I will come to them from before them and behind them, from their right and from their left, and You will not find most of them as thankful ones (i.e. they will not be dutiful to You).”

18. (Allaah) said (to Iblees): “Get out from this (Paradise), disgraced and expelled. Whoever of them (mankind) will follow you, then surely, I will fill Hell with you all.”’

[al-A’raaf 7:11-18]

Allaah tells us what the Shaytaan said when he was informed that he would be expelled and cast away from the mercy of Allaah (interpretation of the meaning):

‘[Iblees (Satan)] said: “By Your Might, then I will surely, mislead them all,

83. “Except Your chosen slaves amongst them (i.e. faithful, obedient, true believers of Islamic Monotheism).”

84. (Allaah) said: “The truth is — and the truth I say

85. That I will fill Hell with you [Iblees (Satan)] and those of them (mankind) that follow you, together.”’

[Saad 38:82-85]

And there are other verses which describe the fate of the Shaytaan on the Day of Resurrection.

Allaah tells us that the Shaytaan will disown his followers on the Day of Resurrection. He says (interpretation of the meaning):

‘And Shaytaan (Satan) will say when the matter has been decided: “Verily, Allaah promised you a promise of truth. And I too promised you, but I betrayed you. I had no authority over you except that I called you, and you responded to me. So blame me not, but blame yourselves. I cannot help you, nor can you help me. I deny your former act in associating me (Satan) as a partner with Allaah (by obeying me in the life of the world). Verily, there is a painful torment for the Zaalimoon (polytheists and wrongdoers).”’

[Ibraaheem 14:22]

Let the wise beware lest they become followers of the Shaytaan, for his followers are the people of Hell – as stated in the verses quoted above – and the Shaytaan ‘only invites his Hizb (followers) that they may become the dwellers of the blazing Fire’ [Faatir 35:6 – interpretation of the meaning].

‘They are the party of Shaytaan (Satan). Verily, it is the party of Shaytaan (Satan) that will be the losers!’

[al-Mujaadilah 58:19– interpretation of the meaning].

Hence Allaah has commanded us to regard him as our enemy and to fight him, and to beware of obeying him and following in his footsteps. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

‘Surely, Shaytaan (Satan) is an enemy to you, so take (treat) him as an enemy’

[Faatir 35:6]

‘Did I not command you, O Children of Adam, that you should not worship Shaytaan (Satan). Verily, he is a plain enemy to you’

[Yaa-Seen 36:6]

‘O mankind! Eat of that which is lawful and good on the earth, and follow not the footsteps of Shaytaan (Satan). Verily, he is to you an open enemy’

[al-Baqarah 2:168]

‘O you who believe! Follow not the footsteps of Shaytaan (Satan). And whosoever follows the footsteps of Shaytaan (Satan), then, verily, he commands Al-Fahsha’ [i.e. to commit indecency (illegal sexual intercourse)], and Al-Munkar [disbelief and polytheism (i.e. to do evil and wicked deeds; and to speak or to do what is forbidden in Islam)]’

[al-Noor 24:21]

We ask Allaah to grant us refuge from the accursed Shaytaan.

And Allaah knows best.

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Her father will not let her get married on the grounds that she should complete her education

I have received some proposals but my father refuses them, and justifies this by saying that I must complete my education first. I have tried to convince them about my wish to marry and that it will not affect my education negatively. But my parents insist on their opinion. Is it permissible for me to marry without their approval? What shall I do otherwise?.

Praise be to Allaah.

Undoubtedly your father’s preventing you from getting married to someone compatible is haraam. Marriage is more important than study, and it does not rule out study because it is possible to do both. 

In your situation it is permissible for you to contact the sharee’ah court and tell them what has happened, then after that the final decision is up to the court. End quote. 

Shaykh Muhammad ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him).

His mother forced him to fall short with regard to the rights of one of his two wives

If a man has two wives, and his mother forces him to fall short with regard to the rights of one of them, and he gives his wife the choice between staying with him and giving up some of her rights or divorce, and she chooses to stay with him, is it permissible for him to do that?.

Praise be to Allaah.

There is no blame or sin on him if he gave her the choice and she chose to stay, rather the blame and sin is on his mother who is forcing him to do this. If he can advise his mother himself, or through the mediation of someone whom she will listen to, and tell her that it is not permissible for her to do this, and make her fear punishment in this world or in the Hereafter, then this is what he must do, otherwise Allaah does not burden any soul beyond its scope. End quote.