I thought of suicide but knowing how serious this crime is prevented me from doing anything.
I travelled for my work and met a young man from my country who seems to be pure and committed, and he lives in the same city where I am studying.
I cried throughout the trip and prayed to Allaah that I would die on the trip, because I felt that I had grown weak and had lost the ability to resist.
When I returned from the trip I felt that something had changed in me. And I renewed my trust in Allaah and cut off all ties with those who had corrupted me. I announced it as repentance that I had been unable to do for a long time. I prayed to Allaah asking Him for guidance (istikhaarah) and asking that this young man would be my husband. By Allaah, this young man continued to get in touch with me asking me to marry him on the basis that I would adhere to sharee’ah. I told my family but they refused again and upset me because they are not thinking of what I am suffering. By Allaah, I do not want to disobey them, but they are putting me under unbearable pressure. I thought of asking the imam to be my wali (guardian), because this young man is one of the best I have seen in terms of religious commitment and good character. By Allaah, I only want to keep myself chaste for the sake of Allaah. What should Ido?
My second question is: I feel guilty with this young man because of my past sins. Should I tell him of what I did in the past even though I have repented sincerely? I am in touch with this man by phone to work things out, and Allaah is witness that he has never transgressed the limits with me. Please advise me, may Allaah reward you, for my heart is breaking.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
We ask Allaah, may He be exalted, to relieve your distress
and worry and to protect you from falling into the way that leads to doom
and destruction and slipping into sin, for He is able to do whatever He
wills.
Listen to this divine call (interpretation of the meaning):
“Say: O ‘Ibaadi (My slaves) who have transgressed against
themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of
Allaah, verily, Allaah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft‑Forgiving, Most
Merciful”
[al-Zumar 39:53]
Listen to the call of Allaah to His believing slaves
(interpretation of the meaning):
“O you who believe! Turn to Allaah with sincere
repentance! It may be that your Lord will expiate from you your sins, and
admit you into Gardens under which rivers flow (Paradise)”
[al-Tahreem 66:8]
Allaah accepts the repentance of His slaves, as He says
(interpretation of the meaning):
“And He it is Who accepts repentance from His slaves, and
forgives sins, and He knows what you do”
[al-Shoora 42:25]
What is it that made you leave your family and travel to a
kaafir land and live there? No one can trust himself even in a Muslim
country because there are so many doubts and whims and desires!
So how about in a land where anything goes, and where the
doors to sin are open wide?
Because of that, and because of his keenness to protect his
ummah from falling into the like of that which you have fallen into – we ask
Allaah to keep you safe – the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) forbade living among the kuffaar and settling in their lands. He
said: “I disavow myself of any Muslim who settles among the mushrikeen.”
Narrated by Abu Dawood (2654) and al-Tirmidhi (1604); classed as saheeh by
al-Albaani in Irwa’ al-Ghaleel (1207).
Settling in a kaafir country is unhealthy and hard, a life of
anxiety and stress. Their life – I mean the people of that land – is an
unbearable hell, by their own admission, because they have lost spiritual
discipline and the connection with God; their life has become purely
materialistic. Mental illness has become widespread among them, and they
have resorted, in many cases, to exiting from this life by means of
suicide.
Secondly:
Our advice to you is to look for the reasons why your family
took this attitude towards you and refused everyone who came to propose
marriage to you. Try to find out what it is and try to do something about
it, so that you will be able to resolve the matter and come up with an
appropriate solution so that you will be able to reconcile with your family.
If that is not possible and things remain as they are, and
you find out that the reasons that have come between you and your family are
not legitimate, then in that case your guardian is the ruler or the shar’i
qaadi (judge). Since you are living in a country where there is no Islamic
legal system and it is not a Muslim country, there is nothing wrong with the
director of one of the Islamic centres or the imam of one of the mosques
acting as your wali. See the answer to question no.
7989.
Thirdly:
If you feel that you have sinned because of what you have
done in the past, and have turned back to Allaah and repented sincerely,
meaning that you regret what you did and resolve not to go back to it, and
give up the sin, and ask for forgiveness, and do a lot of good deeds, that
will make up for what you did and will purify you. Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
“But whosoever repents after his crime and does righteous
good deeds (by obeying Allaah), then verily, Allaah will pardon him (accept
his repentance). Verily, Allaah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”
[al-Maa'idah 5:39]
“And verily, I am indeed forgiving to him who repents,
believes (in My Oneness, and associates none in worship with Me) and does
righteous good deeds, and then remains constant in doing them (till his
death)”
[Ta-Ha 20:82]
“And whosoever repents and does righteous good deeds; then
verily, he repents towards Allaah with true repentance”
[al-Furqaan 25:71]
Whoever turns away from sin and turns to his Lord and submits
to Him, Allaah will accept his repentance and make the consequences good,
and He will make him one of those who inherit Paradise. Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
“Then, there has succeeded them a posterity who have given
up As‑Salât (the prayers) [i.e. made their Salât (prayers) to be lost,
either by not offering them or by not offering them perfectly or by not
offering them in their proper fixed times] and have followed lusts. So they
will be thrown in Hell.
60. Except those who repent and believe (in the Oneness of
Allaah and His Messenger Muhammad (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him), and work
righteousness. Such will enter Paradise and they will not be wronged in
aught”
[Maryam 19:59-60]
Repentance opens a new door from which he may start a new
life, filled with faith, ihsaan and hope.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: “The one who repents is like one who did not sin.” Narrated by Ibn
Maajah (4250); classed as hasan by al-Albaani.
I advise you not to tell him about that, because after
repenting it is as if it never happened. Start a new life with him, filled
with hope, love and happiness, and surrounded with worship, piety and
righteousness, following true guidance. Our advice to you is to hasten to
marry this young man, because his getting in touch with you and forming a
relationship before marriage is haraam, and may open the door to temptation.
We ask Allaah to protect us from slipping.
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