Her grandmother lives with her uncle who used to interfere with her; is it permissible for her to refrain from visiting her?

 

My uncle used to interfere with me when I was a child. Now, after getting married, I have cut off ties with him and I no longer visit him or his wife and children. The problem is that my grandmother lives with him and now she is incapacitated. I have not visited her for two years because I want to avoid seeing him. What is the ruling on that?.

Praise be to Allaah.

Firstly: 

We are very saddened by the situation in which many Muslims
are today, and we hear of things that those who came before us would never
have imagined they would hear. What sort of father or uncle interferes with
one of his mahrams? 

Secondly: 

If your uncle has repented sincerely from what he did and
regrets it, in this case it is not permissible for you to cut off ties with
him; rather what is required is to uphold ties with him and be on good terms
with him. The one who repents from a sin is like the one who did not commit
a sin, and repentance from any sin, no matter how great, is valid. 

But if he is still persisting in his misguidance and
deviation, then it is your right to shun him until he gives up his evil
ways. 

But your grandmother has nothing to do with what happened and
you have to maintain ties with her and treat her kindly. The fact that you
do not want to see your uncle does not give you an excuse for not visiting
her and upholding ties with her. 

It is possible to you to visit her whilst avoiding seeing
him, or to limit your relationship with him to saying salaams to him only,
or you can find times when he is away from home and visit your grandmother
then. Or there may be other solutions that you can think about in order to
uphold your ties of kinship. 

See also the answer to question no.
115003

And Allah knows best.