A woman refusing to have intercourse with her husband

 

If wife deos not allow his husband to
have intercourse than what will

happen to women.

1.Women will be divorced.

2.Man should give her divorce.

3.Man should marriage someone else.

4.Others.

Praise be to Allaah.

If a woman refuses her husband’s request to come to bed with no
Islamically-sound reason (such as sickness, or his being drunk, for example), what happens
is as described below:

Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger
of Allaah
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘If a man calls his wife
to his bed and she refuses [and does not come], and he spends the night angry with her,
the angels will curse her until morning.’” (Reported by al-Bukhaari,
4794; the additional phrase quoted in square brackets is from Abu Dawood, al-Sunan,
Kitaab al-Nikaah, Bab haqq al-zawj ‘ala’l-mar’ah).

In the phrase “if a man calls his wife to his
bed,” the word “bed” is obviously a metaphor for intercourse. Metaphors are
used in the Qur’aan and Sunnah to refer to things about which people usually feel
shy. Does this apply only to the nighttime, or does it include daytime too? The answer may
be found in a hadeeth narrated by Muslim: “By the One in Whose hand is my soul, there
is no man who calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, but the One Who is above the
heavens [i.e. Allaah] will be angry with her, until he (her husband) is pleased with
her.” Ibn Khuzaymah and Ibn Hibbaan report a hadeeth narrated by Jaabir: “There
are three whose prayers will not be accepted and none of whose good deeds will ascend to
heaven: a runaway slave, until he returns to his master; a drunken man until he becomes
sober; and a woman with whom her husband is angry, until he is pleased with her.”
These are general terms, which include both night and day.

The phrase “and he spends the night angry with her” refers to
the cause of the angels’ curse, because this confirms that she is a sinner, which is
a different matter than if he accepts her excuse and is not angry with her, or lets the
matter drop. Is she to blame if he keeps her away from his bed? The answer is: no, unless
she is the one who started the separation and he is keeping away from her because of it,
and she did not apologize but prolonged the separation. But if he is the one who started
it, and is thus treating her unfairly, then she is not to blame. In one report, instead of
the words “the angels curse her until morning,” the wording is “…
until she returns” – and this is a useful variant.

This hadeeth tells us that denying a spouse’s rights –
whether physical or financial – is something that will inevitably bring about the
wrath of Allaah, unless Allaah grants His mercy to the sinner.

We also learn that the angels will pray against a sinner so long as he
or she persists in the sin.

The hadeeth also directs a wife to help her husband and seek his
satisfaction, because a man is less patient than a woman when it comes to doing without
intercourse. The most disturbing thing for a man is his sexual impulse, so Islam urges
women to help their husbands in this regard. (Adapted and abbreviated from the
commentary by al-Haafiz Ibn Hijr – may Allaah have mercy on him – on this
hadeeth in Fath al-Baari).

Whether the husband wants to discipline his wife, or
forgive her, or take another wife, or divorce her, this is all up to him to choose. Let
the woman beware of incurring her husband’s wrath because this will lead to
Allaah’s being angry with her.

We ask Allaah to rectify this situation. May Allaah bless
our Prophet Muhammad.